Suspecting your partner of cheating is one of the worst things to go through in a relationship. It creates an impenetrable layer of confusion in your mind, as you don’t know what to think or what kind of impulses you should act upon. People in this position find themselves at a crossroads: they can either put their suspicions behind them, giving the other person the benefit of the doubt and not acting on their thoughts any further; or, they can embark on a mission to truly discover whether their partner is being unfaithful. If you are tempted into the latter option, we have a few thoughts on the matter.
You suspect your partner
If you suspect your partner of cheating right off the bat, then you have a tough road ahead of you whether they are actually cheating or not. The mere thought of an unfaithful partner can plant a seed in your mind that will eventually take control of your life. If you recognize this thought as mere unfounded paranoia, then perhaps you can eventually get over it and continue enjoying your relationship. However, if you find some reason to believe that your suspicion is based on fact, then you might find yourself in the position of needing to act on your suspicion and confirm it as true or false before moving on in your life. If that is indeed your case, then we sympathize with your situation. However, you should find comfort in knowing that there are certain things you can do in order to find out whether your partner is cheating.
See if they are cheating on Facebook
Now, here is where the sneaky stuff comes in — seeing if your partner is cheating on Facebook. First, discover your partner’s Facebook password. We’ll leave this part up to you, because we know that you have your ways of doing this. Next, wait for the opportune moment where your partner will be away from their device for a significant amount of time. Once you land in their Facebook account, browse through their private messages to see if they are talking to anyone from the opposite sex. Open up all of these messages, and see if there are any shady conversations going on. This is admittedly a deep low that people don’t want to find themselves in, but this sort of sneaking around is the only way that you can actually confirm whether or not your partner is cheating on you. If all the messages seem harmless, this is a great sign. However, if you caught your partner clearly flirting with someone else, it might not bode well for the future of your relationship.
Check their history for websites to find sex
When your partner has abandoned their laptop or phone for a significant period of time, browse through their website history to see if they were using any websites to find sex. You might look through their internet data and find only online games, sports, or fashion news. However, if upon doing this you discover that there was an online hookup website visit in their recent history, then that is horrible news, and it is largely indicative of your partner being unfaithful. Once you have confirmed that they are using an adult dating platform, you can not stop there. Browse through their message history and see what kind of chats they were having. You might find some dirty messages sent back and forth, or even a confirmation of a first date. If you find either of those in your partner’s phone, it’s time to confront them, and expect the worst for the relationship.
Catching them in a one night stand
If your cheating investigation has gone so far that you actually catch your partner in a one night stand with someone, then you have, unfortunately, successfully completed your mission, and you have confirmed in the clearest possible way that your partner is cheating on you. This is a bittersweet moment, because this was not the type of confirmation you’re looking for. Catching them in the act was a painful sight to witness, but perhaps the extreme difficulty of that moment was exactly what you needed to convince yourself that your partner could actually be so unfaithful towards you.
No excuse for adultery
After catching them in the act of cheating, your partner might come at you with a thousand explanations for why they cheated, and beg for your forgiveness. However, you must keep in mind here that there is no valid excuse for adultery. All instances of cheating are a reflection of the cheater’s weakness, without exception. We leave it up to you whether you forgive your partner or not, but we urge you never to forget that you have been cheated on by your partner, because cheating is one of the worst things that one person can do to another.