Casual Online Dating Tactics
Before you start putting out classified ads in the back of free newsletters, you should seriously sex dating online. If you’ve been out of the game for awhile, sex dating with online hookup sites, is a great way to get your groove back. But even on sex dating sites, there are some things that women do that scare off guys, and you want to avoid that. So here are a few of the online dating fails that women make that are sure to drain his dragon.
1. Talk about your ex. Unless he’s coming off a serious break up himself and you two want to bond over that fact, it’s never a good idea to mention ex-boyfriends or other guys in general. When you two are together, it’s the two of you, even in casual settings you don’t want to bring in your ex’s or anyone else you might be seeing.
2. Self-deprecating humor. Unfortunately, there’s a double standard here. On guys, self-deprecating humor is a good look. It shows they don’t take themselves too seriously or take things too personally. On girls it looks like you’re fishing for a compliment or you feel sorry for yourself. In any event, you come across as someone who needs constant reassurance and that can be a major turn off in the casual dating scene. Another thing to consider is that you also come across as a girl who has low self-esteem. When guys are into girls who have low self-esteem, that says something about the guy, and it’s almost never good. Girls with low self-esteem are easy to abuse, manipulate, and control. They love unconditionally, but not out of a place of love. They love from a place of fear and an intrinsic belief that they themselves are unlovable. If you’re in that place you want to avoid the dating scene altogether because you’re not in the right frame of mind to date, and you won’t like the sort of men you attract.
3. Analyzing him like a test subject or specimen. If you can’t help but analyze people the last thing you want to do is make them feel like they’re being analyzed. They then become overly self-conscious and clam up. We get it. It’s a way to deflect attention from yourself by putting all the focus on the other person. The problem is, it makes them feel extremely uncomfortable, which is exactly how you feel, which is why you’re doing it in the first place. But yeah, you really don’t want to make your date feel like he’s being cross examined.
Believe it or not, guys need to be romanced too. They put a lot of thought into how they present themselves to us women and come up with all kinds of clever icebreaking strategies in order to hook up with us online. It’s not like they’re just expecting us to fuck them because we’re going to be awed by their majestic sexuality or something. They think about their dating game as much as we do, if not more. Let’s face it, they have to put a lot more effort into wooing us than we do them, generally. All we have to do is show up and look cute, giggle at their jokes, and smile at appropriate times.
So if you’re interested in getting the D, you don’t have to go out of your way, you just have to show interest.
How to show interest in your date sexually
One thing to keep in mind is that guys are afraid of getting rejected. So dropping key hints may be necessary in order to seal the deal on the date. Even if everything is going perfectly and your chemistry is great, a guy might not feel comfortable about making the first move because he’s afraid of offending you or getting shut down. It’s kind of like jumping into a pool. You know it’s going to be alright, but that initial shock of entering the water makes you apprehensive. It’s easier to do nothing, so sometimes, that’s what guys do.
There are some ways that you can make your date know that you are sexually interested in them. You can use your body language, your eyes, your lips, dropping subtle clues that you want some loving. Or you can say something along the lines of “Wanna fuck?” or “Wanna come back to my place” or even “How about we get one last drink and then make out?” Nothing beats directness, and that last tactic leaves little room for interpretation.